Let's Get Real About Boobs

In a blog I wrote a couple of years back, I covered the history of fashion and the manipulation of women's bodies to achieve the "beautiful."  With the loss of corsets came room for the newest form of beautification: plastic surgery.

Plastic surgery has it's place in this world.  Let's not nit pick this blog like our culture likes to do.

Let's get real.

It took me until my mid- to late twenties before I could accept my own natural breasts.  Why is that?

Let's discuss.

As a woman it feels as though 90% of all sexy images that I see of women are those that have fake breasts.  And it seems as though the only women who have enough confidence to pose for sexy images have fake breasts.

Where did we lose our sense of natural beauty?  Where is the appreciation for the natural curves of a woman's body?  

We learn from a young age through exposure to media, men's magazines, etc. that women with large fake breasts are beautiful.  So I began to compare as a teenager, and my breasts were nothing like that.  I couldn't necessarily put on a tiny crop top and have 2/3 of my "under breast" hang out all nice and perfect like.  To get cleavage (even as a larger chested girl), I have to have a fantastic push up bra.  Cute summer dresses with spaghetti straps don't just nicely sit on top without a bra.  

All of these observations over time as I grew up affected me.  If I couldn't look the way that the pictures of the "sexy" women looked, then there must be something wrong with me.  I must look terrible.  I must be UNATTRACTIVE.  I must be UGLY.  After all, what did I have to compare myself with?  

Contrary to what men might like to imagine, us women don't just stand around looking at and comparing each other's breasts.  Our American culture projects women with plastic surgery everywhere.    

As I grew older, I came to some realizations.  Fake breasts are NOT what natural ones look like.  To compare my natural self to that is to compare myself to literally something that is plastic.  It's unrealistic in expectations and literally in the sense that it is not real.

Our young girls don't get to see what natural beauty looks like.  They are taught how to look manufactured and anything less is UGLY.  Our theories are supported by the onslaught of men's magazines who glorify women with fake breasts.  They grace more pages than a natural woman.  And then they are photoshopped to boot.   

As adult women, it's important that we embrace how our bodies look and teach our young girls realistic expectations.  When you place a goal in front of a girl that requires thousands of dollars and plastic, how is that fair?  The more photos and art of real women that girls see will teach them what it's like to be normal.  To feel beautiful the way they are made.  

I usually stay away from discussing men in my blog, but I feel as though I need to touch on this slightly in this one.  Men, let's talk.  Let's discuss how a tiny comment about a woman's large FAKE breasts can diminish a natural woman's self esteem.  They CANNOT and WILL NOT look like that without the help of a doctor.  When you make comments about other women, we listen.  We listen, because we want to know what you find attractive.  We want to know what you think is beautiful, so that we can be that.  Most women crave to hear from a man that he thinks she's attractive, beautiful, etc.  

And now I'm really going to get real.  I LIKE it when I hear a man say he doesn't like fake breasts.  It makes the rest of us women who are natural take a sigh of relief.  Because we're scared.  We're scared that you only want what's in the magazines.  We're scared that if we can't have our nipples facing the ceiling then we're droopy and nasty.  We're scared that you won't want us.

Let me show you top google search images when you input "sexy boobs:"

I didn't have to search anything else and all of the above came up.  In fact, out of the first twelve photos listed, only two women had natural breasts.  When I searched "natural c cup breast," I couldn't find anything but ads for "natural" and surgical breast enlargement.

Need I say more?